Nope. The New Year and daily resolution you should be making is ...Communicate. While real estate is all about "location, location, location", Successful marriage is all about..."communicate, communicate, communicate". Which has absolutely nothing to do with talking! Most men which their wives would talk less!
Unlike real estate, there's a couple more adjectives and verbs to add to your resolution than just to communicate. Add "honestly, honestly, honestly" and your husband will also add, "concisely, concisely, concisely" to that.! lol.
Men are terribly simple. Feed them. Give them great sex that they (and you) enjoy (a topic for another time :), and...make sure your husband is aware you "admire them". Yup. Simple.
Food, sex and admiration. It's not their physique you should admire, though if they have muscles, or a hunky hairy chest or great eye color...do tel them you find those things terribly sexy :). You'll see the chests expand. But men need to know their wives admire them as providers. Or at least their sincere attempts to be "the "Provider" and "Defender" of the home. This role of manhood is often not acknowledged by ladies and in todays liberal, equal rights views of many ladies, it is considered passe. But I disagree. It is an ingrained role in the DNA (in my non-liberal, non-equalitarian view :) of most men...that they are to "provide" for their family and are to be the "protector of the home". Let them know they achieve this daily! That you admire them for these attributes and all the other character attributes that made you first fall in love with them.
Women on the other hand, achhh!!! So totally complicated, unlike men. Feed, admire and meet sexual needs are so not first and foremost on the list of any female. Our list of needs....can fill pages. But...if you truly do boil the list down...it comes down to one thing. Women want to know their husbands "treasure" them.
But our simple husbands not only don't know that.... but usually have not a single clue how one communicates "treasuring". Women don't know how to explain it well either. Our men ask us, "what's wrong?" We answer "Nothing!" or "I'm FINE!" because, of course..they should KNOW! Even though we ourselves can't put it into words either ...when we feel unappreciated, unacknowledged, and un-treasured. If you have a hubby who thinks telling you that you're "looking good" covers "treasuring" is deluded. Women don't want to be treasured for their looks but in spite of them. Make sure your hubby knows "looking good" or denying the obvious "needto go on a diet" has nothing to do with making a woman feel treasured. It's not bad! It's a very good thing for them to do and they should do it...regularly. But it's not the puzzle piece that makes us happy deep down inside. That is feeling as if we are his treasure. He values us beyond words...second only to God.
And we know when we don't "feel treasured". We may feel takin for granted but definitely...not as if we are the treasure your hubby covets and delights in having as HIS! When husbands ask us, "what's wrong?" they usually get the response...."Nothing!" (cause husbands should already KNOW what is wrong) or "I'M FINE!" (which again means anything but and woe to the hubby who doesn't get that).
So for this to be in nugget form...make a resolution this year and every day ...to communicate your feelings. Calmly. Concisely (men will SO appreciate if it is concise and not a manifest or litany of complaints). Tell them you need to feel you are their treasure. Talk to them about what they can do to make you aware that they do treasure you. Not just "why they should" :). Read the definition of "treasure" (as a verb) with your husband. Read the definition of "admire" (as a verb) with your wife.
And be sure to have great food and great sex :).
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